“You are a walking contradiction,” Demi says to me as he peered into my eyes trying to unlock its secrets. He had interrogated me for the last 70 minutes. We were on a first date[…]
Category: women
Cages of construct: the African reality and dream
Africa loves to adore its women as long as they fit perfectly in their cages of construct. African men love their women, as long as that woman is African enough. African women love their men[…]
Dear single girl: it is okay to be alone and be happy
Last year, on the occasion of my birthday I began to reflect on my life and the lessons I was learning in my twenties. As part of the transition from my early to mid to[…]
Who teaches the young boy to be a good man?
A few weeks ago, I was invited to talk to young girls about the consequences of “naked selfies” and putting too much of themselves online. When I was asked to do this talk, it was[…]
How to be a grown up 101 — the ‘DYI’ edition
I should have known my entire universe was going to come crashing down the minute I had to insert the L4 lever into B3. There was no L4, I looked in every single packet that[…]
If I was screaming for my life, I would want someone to save me
“Help! Someone please call the police, he is going to kill me!” Those chilling words penetrated by sleep in the early hours of this morning. I live in a quiet neighbourhood, the most exciting thing[…]
Faces of feminism: the age of the selfie
“The act of women taking selfies is inherently feminist, especially in a society that tries so hard to tell women that our bodies are projects to be worked on and a society that profits off[…]