So many things have been clashing around my head in the last couple of weeks. To turn a rather crude phrase these things have “touched me on my studio” for the lack of a better[…]
Category: gender
In my mother’s womb…
In my mother’s womb, I knew my place. I was born to a world that defined my worth without my say. There I listened as my life was planned for me. A good wife, she[…]
International Women’s Day: the age of truth and audacity
*Had this to say today at a brunch we hosted at Google for IWD, and wanted to share it here. International Women’s Day is such an important day but 2018 is particularly important for women.[…]
Being an engineer for young girls is as normal as breathing
The conversation around women in the workplace, in the media and socially keeps getting derailed because somehow in 2017 women are still viewed as second class citizens in parts of the world. Just watch this[…]
We need to stop calling grown ass women ‘cute’
It’s a windy afternoon in the city of Cape Town, for the second time in my four-day trip here I have had to make the grave choice of what was more important, my dignity or[…]
In Nigeria, an accent is a catalyst for love
I have been debating whether I should write this for days but a conversation with a friend just convinced me to do it. Please hold up on the hunt for me till you’re done reading.[…]
Playing at adulthood: the grown up confessional
When I was little, I always thought that growing happened like magic. You wake up one morning, all the secrets of adulthood would be downloaded into your brain. Everything would change, you would know how[…]
Cages of construct: the African reality and dream
Africa loves to adore its women as long as they fit perfectly in their cages of construct. African men love their women, as long as that woman is African enough. African women love their men[…]
Dear single girl: it is okay to be alone and be happy
Last year, on the occasion of my birthday I began to reflect on my life and the lessons I was learning in my twenties. As part of the transition from my early to mid to[…]
Who teaches the young boy to be a good man?
A few weeks ago, I was invited to talk to young girls about the consequences of “naked selfies” and putting too much of themselves online. When I was asked to do this talk, it was[…]