So many things have been clashing around my head in the last couple of weeks. To turn a rather crude phrase these things have “touched me on my studio” for the lack of a better[…]
Category: men
Friendships and the city: Are we too busy for coffee or just lazy?
Recently I participated in the millennial old tradition of Saturday morning brunch. As I sat in the crowded restaurant in its outdoor winter enclosure, I looked at the faces of all the other Johannesburg natives,[…]
Can this selfie get me a date?
It’s 2am, I just spent the evening at a club drinking tea (it’s complicated) while pretending I can’t see guys ogling my dress. I am showered but the cigar smoke is still in my hair,[…]
Being an engineer for young girls is as normal as breathing
The conversation around women in the workplace, in the media and socially keeps getting derailed because somehow in 2017 women are still viewed as second class citizens in parts of the world. Just watch this[…]
We need to stop calling grown ass women ‘cute’
It’s a windy afternoon in the city of Cape Town, for the second time in my four-day trip here I have had to make the grave choice of what was more important, my dignity or[…]
Courtship and intimacy: the scar tissue of the Tinder generation
“You are a walking contradiction,” Demi says to me as he peered into my eyes trying to unlock its secrets. He had interrogated me for the last 70 minutes. We were on a first date[…]
Cages of construct: the African reality and dream
Africa loves to adore its women as long as they fit perfectly in their cages of construct. African men love their women, as long as that woman is African enough. African women love their men[…]